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Beats the alternative…

I’m sorry, but getting older sucks.

Yes, I know, you hear so many of us touting that it’s wonderful and amazing and enlightening and empowering but in all honesty, I’d take my 20 something year old body, over my 58-year-old body any day.

The other day, I plucked a black hair off my chin that was at least an inch long! First, how did that happen? And secondly, how did I not see it until it was an inch long? I think the biggest reason our near-sightedness gets worse as we age, is so we don’t see that sort of thing on our partner’s face.

That and all the wrinkles.

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Ne’er-do-well

I’m sick.

Not like flu sick, more of just a chest/head cold. It’s not too bad, and I’m able to function well enough to take care of myself. But chores like laundry and dishes or cooking are a strain.

I’m even struggling to write, which is why I missed my post yesterday. Instead, I posted a picture on Instagram and Facebook. I put up a photo of me on my bike and asked a question: Do you workout if you’re feeling sick?

I feel like I'm lazy if I'm not doing something

I got a lot of great comments and it was fun just laying in bed reading and answering them. It was also interesting to see a pattern, not only from readers, but also from me.

Almost everyone said to just take the day off and lay low. Don’t exercise when you’re sick. Which was probably what I wanted to hear anyway.

I’m pretty sure the reason I was looking for that affirmation is because I feel guilty if I’m not working out and instead just lying around. Wait, let me change that statement…

I feel guilty if I’m laying around doing nothing.

I didn’t feel guilty last week when I was on the road with John having fun and getting very little exercise in. So why do I feel guilty not working out if I’m sick?

Good question.

When I got to thinking about it, one word came to mind: lazy. When I was growing up, lazy was just about the worst thing to be labeled. Especially if it came out of my Mother’s mouth.

It didn’t bother her so much that we were poor. She didn’t care if someone called us “Cherry pickers”, or commented that we were getting Army Surplus food. Nope, there were two things that stand out in my mind of the utmost importance to her.

We were clean and hard-working.

We always went to school with clean clothes on, and our faces scrubbed. And the minute we got home, there were chores to do. Even once the chores and homework were done, we didn’t get to sit around.

“Get outside and play before I find something for you to do” would be the next words we would hear. There would be no lazing around. And this was ingrained into our souls.

So to this day, I hear that voice telling me to get up and get stuff done. It is better to be playing than to be lazy. At 58, I am still controlled by my mother who has been dead for over 47 years.

Which is why I needed a bunch of other voices telling me it was okay to lay low. I’d like to say, next time I’ll do better and won’t listen to my Mom, but that’s probably not going to happen.

I’m still not feeling well today, but I better get going and get the laundry done. I’ve got three piles sitting here in front of me, and like Mom used to say, “They are not going to wash themselves, you know.”

Are you good at laying low if you're sick?

No being lazy!

Weekend – Back…on track

A week on the road with John sure set my diet and exercise back! Not only did I spend a lot of time sitting, but I also reverted to my husband’s eating schedule. Eating two big meals per day works well for him.

For me, that plan doesn’t work so well. In January I went back to eating the way I have for most of my life. I eat five times per day, making sure to get breakfast in within 30 minutes of waking up. And at 58, it’s how I keep my metabolism going.

That and exercise.

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The road less traveled

My husband’s job is in outside sales. Because of that, he is on the road a lot. Most weeks he’s gone three or four days, traveling around southern California, into Nevada and Arizona. It’s a good job for him, because he’s a bit of a wanderer anyway.

It’s good for me too, because I get time to myself to do my own thing. That, and the toilet seat’s down the entire week. But there are times I like to tag along with him. And that’s what we did this week.

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Let’s do this together video – Meeting new friends

Happy Valentine’s Day! What a perfect day to meet a new friend. 

I tagged along with my husband, John, this week for a few work days in Las Vegas. Not only do we get to spend time together, especially on Valentine’s Day, but I also got a chance to meet a new friend.

A wonderful thing about having this blog has been finding new connections along the way. I’ve cultivated friendships from people all over the world, thanks to the world wide web.

One of those friendships is a woman I met through her FaceBook page: Live Balanced Naturally. Patti Stevens lives in Las Vegas and her mission is:

“Helping women at a crossroad to bring their life into balance (body, mind and soul) so they can live radiantly ageless!”

“As an Ageless Lifestyle coach, Holy Fire Reiki Master, Pilates, Yoga and Qigong instructor and essential oil advocate, Patti uses all these modalities (plus some others) to help women be agelessly radiant!”

So, when in Vegas…

I can tell you, Patti is radiant! She is beautiful, inside and out and clearly practices what she preaches. We had a wonderful time together and I am so lucky I got a chance to meet this lovely woman.

Happy Valentine’s Day!

 

Sweet distractions…

okay, okay I really meant to write a blog post today! I even had an idea of what I wanted to share.

But then this happened:

What do you think? Did I make the right decision?

I hope you are making great choices!

Weekend – planning

One of the problems with living in sunny Santa Barbara is… it’s almost always sunny. All that sunshine makes me want to be outside playing. And all that playing makes it difficult to get other things done.

Like planning a trip or working on a fundraiser.

This morning’s cool marine layer gives us the perfect opportunity to stay in and get some work done. While John strategies about how to raise funds for victims of the Thomas Fire and Flood, I’m looking for tours of Clan Colquhoun Castle in Scotland.

If you look over on the right, there’s a link to click on and donate for John’s fundraiser, if you can. And if you know anything about Scotland or Clan Colquhoun, let me know. We could use your help.

I hope your weekend planning is off to a good start.

 

How urinals and beauty salons are the same

I went to see Jumanji, Welcome to the Jungle for the second time the other day. That movie makes me chuckle.

There is a scene when Jack Black’s character, Professor Shelley Oberon, who is really Bethany, a 17-year-old girl, has to pee and discovers that “she” has…well, man parts.

It’s pretty funny, and you’ll have to go see it to get the full impact.

In the scene the other guys are telling “her” how to do it, as they are going too. When “she” looks over at the other guys, they immediately yell, “Hey man, there’s no looking!”

Even us girls know that’s the rule.

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I will…

The other day I was desperately looking for a specific photo I wanted for one of my blog posts. If you’ve been following along, you know I use my own photos for my posts.

It was written and ready to publish, but I was determined to find that one photo, so I kept digging. I was pretty sure it was on an old hard drive of mine, so I plugged it into my laptop and poked around.

I didn’t find it there, but I did find something else.

It is something I wrote years ago, when I was trying to sort out some emotions I was going through. Wait, let me stop right here and find my courage.

Deep breath in.

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Let’s do this together video – this is for you

I didn’t want to work out today. I’m dealing with some very strong emotions about something I found yesterday…something I wrote years ago. But, I put my tennis shoes on and headed out the door to go for a walk.

It’s a bright, sunny 68 degrees here and everywhere I walk there is beauty all around me. I end up messing up my workout app because I keep stopping to take pictures.  Continue reading

The perfect arrangement

Looking out my window I could see the top of a crocus poking up through the snow. I took a deep breath and let out a sigh of relief. Spring was finally here.

Still in my jammies and slippers, I grabbed my cup of coffee and headed to my computer to check my email. My little dog, Bella, reluctantly followed me knowing I would turn on the small space heater in front of her bed by my desk.

This had become our routine together. I was 46, single and my best buddy and roommate was a four-pound Chihuahua. She curled up with me each night, ate next to me each day, and loved me unconditionally.

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What if you found out, and judged me? That was my fear.

I stood on my front porch steps looking down on him. He had come over to talk to me. To talk some sense into me. When I saw his car pull into the driveway, I met him outside.

I didn’t want to invite him in.

This was my home, the one I purchased, by myself. It had become my sanctuary as well as my hideout. And I didn’t want to invite him in.

It’s odd, I can’t recall the words I said to him, but I know they were hurtful. Never in my life had I said such painful truths to someone so easily. But the words just came out without any hesitation.

“It was a mistake, and I want a divorce.” He responded with words like, ‘but’ and ‘what-about’ and ‘please’, to which I answered, “No I don’t want to give it more time.” Continue reading

Weekend – Two wheeling

You know when you get something new and it becomes the favorite thing?

It get’s put at the top of the list and you almost forget the other things you love.

Every since we got our new bike, it has been the favorite new toy. And we have really enjoyed it!

two wheeling fun

running around the state on our new big bike

In January we pretty much spent every weekend on that bike. But this weekend we thought we’d dust off our other two wheelers and have some fun.  Continue reading

This or That? How do you prioritize and put yourself first?

Earlier this week I wrote about making the choice between having things or having experiences. It is easy for me to make those decisions, because I lean towards experiences now.

But not every decision is that easy for me. I am in an almost constant battle with myself about whether I should do this or that. I’m not sure why that is, but it gets so bad at times it stifles any decision, and I end up wasting time doing nothing.

Does that ever happen to you?

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My 15 minutes of Fame

My moment of fame probably won’t last an entire 15 minutes, but it sure was fun being a part of Health Monitor‘s article on Asthma. They featured me on the front cover and wrote a piece about exercise-induced asthma for a special edition.

It all started when Joana Mangune read my post “A conscious thing“, and contacted me to ask if they could interview me for an article in their magazine. I’d never heard of the magazine, and you probably haven’t either.

But if you’ve ever been stuck in a waiting room patiently waiting for your doctor to finally show up, that magazine could have been sitting right next to you.  Continue reading

Let’s do this together video – Diet Bet

I’ve always balked at the idea of betting against myself. It bugs me to buy health insurance because I’m basically betting that I’m going to get sick or injured. The insurance company is betting I won’t.

Seems weird.

But betting on myself…well, that seems to be working well.

I joined a diet bet the beginning of January and I won! Well, so did almost everyone else, which is great, but it felt good to bet on me, and win.

So I’m going to do it again! Care to join me?

Click here to join me!

 

What do you do, when you don’t know what to do?

Get busy. Just get busy.

Those were the words that kept me going when all I wanted to do was to curl up in a ball and hide. Hide from myself and from the world. I was so embarrassed to be where I was in life.

But there I was, 46 years old and wanting out of my three-month marriage. Not knowing what to do, I got busy. I’d just moved into a new project known as “my ‘70s house” and threw myself into remodeling it.

It was the day “we” were moving in that I realized I had made an enormous mistake and wanted out of my quickie marriage. He didn’t move in with me, but I was paralyzed with fear of what other people would think of me. What I really wanted to do was: Get a quickie divorce. Continue reading

From things to experiences. How to create the life you want.

I’ve had a few people ask how we do it. How do we manage to do so many fun things and take so many trips? I’ve even had a few assume we must have a lot of money, which made me laugh.

One of the great things about getting to 50 and beyond is we’ve had so many different experiences and life changes. For me, I’ve had it all, and lost it all, more than once.

I learned awhile back that possessing things isn’t important to me. Having lost all my “things” during the housing crisis taught me the most important lesson I’ve learned in life.

“You can take away my things, but you can’t take away my experiences.”

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Weekend – Wanderers!

The Santa Ana winds are kicking up, bringing us warm weather…so you know what that means?

We are off to explore the countryside, via motorcycle. 

The great thing about this bike is, we can bring our overnight bags and let the road take us where it will.

I hope your weekend takes you to amazing places!

Happiness

Things are going pretty good in my life right now. You may have noticed, if you’ve been following me on one of my social media platforms. And, I’m grateful for this moment in time.

It’s not always like this, and I know it won’t last either. I’m not being negative or looking for trouble, I just know life is ever-changing. We go through good times, sometimes not even noticing how great those moments are, until we hit a low and wonder what the hell happened.

I’ve been through some very difficult, unhappy times in life. And man have I gone down the wrong path…more than once. I’m pretty sure I’ve known I was heading the wrong direction and saw warning signs, which I completely ignored.

Wonder why I do that?

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