Loretta's Countdown to 60

Aging on my terms - Daily musings in 500 words or so

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Excuse me, but do you validate? One of the side benefits of online dating.

Validation is so important to us all. When I first met John, he was The Online Dating Coach for a local paper. This was one of my all time favorite posts of his about online dating.

Excuse me, but do you validate?

I grew up a shy kid in a small town. I had my circle of friends I was comfortable with, but around anyone else I was usually pretty quiet.

When I joined the Air Force I got pushed out of my comfort zone – way out.

In the service you get thrown into a strange new environment with a bunch of guys from all over the country and are told to just work it out. So you do. This leads to all sorts of firsts. I even found myself volunteering for things I never would have tried back home. Continue reading

Napa in the spring

Our first winter and spring  in Napa was so good.

We rode bikes and played tennis every chance we could. The construction on the house I was managing was coming along nicely, and everything was running smoothly. I was happy and content.

Bella went everywhere with me…and her favorite thing to do: bike rides

In October we helped my oldest son move to Santa Barbara, and while there, we camped at Carpinteria State Beach. The campground is right on the beach and we were both in heaven. Continue reading

Well-being is more than just diet and exercise

Our well-being encompasses so much more than just diet and exercise.

I’ve shared my wellness journey with you here each week, and you’ve seen me try several different diets. I have talked about exercise and the importance of movement as well.

But one area I haven’t put enough attention on, is my mental well-being.

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What do you do when life gets messy?

I tried to write today and it all came out as gobbledygook. Not sure why, but nothing seemed to flow. Usually I can start typing and literally a few minutes later a bunch of words are on the screen.

But today, I’m off.

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Have you ever toured the Florida Keys via motorcycle?

A couple of people asked about our motorcycle trip in Florida, so I thought I’d share it with you.

It was spring of 2016 and we decided to tour the Keys via motorcycle. Only we didn’t want to drive a motorcycle all the way from California to Florida, so we looked into renting a bike there.

I didn’t even know that was an option until then.

We found Rent My Motorcycle in West Palm Beach, and John was thrilled to see they had a BMW R1200RT bike in the fleet. The owner, JR is a great guy and has a very interesting story behind how he got into his business. Continue reading

Weekend – For the Dads

Happy Father’s Day weekend!

I hope you get to spend it with your Dad. My father has long since passed and my boys have grown, so I won’t be celebrating much.

Happy Father's Day to all of the great Dad's out there

My Dad

My husband’s kids are grown and gone too, but we will do something fun just the same. Continue reading

I’m A Really Good Dad – Guest post by John Gavin

I told you My John is an author, right?

It’s kind of how we got to know each other. He wrote a weekly column for a Bay Area newspaper, and he’d send it to me first to edit. There were a couple of occasions when I did  guest posts for him, so I thought it might be nice to return the favor.

In honor of Father’s Day, I found this one he wrote in 2012 and dusted off the pages. I hope you enjoy it. Continue reading

Drama and response triggers – how do you handle them?

I had a disturbing day yesterday, full of drama.

Being a part of an online community, all kinds of crazy things can happen. Most of them good, but every now and then, some “not so good” drama happens. Yesterday was one of those times.

As I said the other day, I started my own group to help bring other “over 50 year olds” together so we can get to know each other and grow our Instagram accounts. It took off immediately and I was overwhelmed with requests and questions.

I’ll admit I loved every minute of it. I’m okay with questions and helping and trying to figure out this crazy social media world. What I wasn’t prepared for was someone who didn’t like the way I was running things.

From day one, she was upset and no matter what I, or other members tried she was unhappy. I found myself spending hours everyday trying to fix it for her, only to have the same issue the next day. Continue reading

Let’s do this together video – It’s all about movement

Are you getting enough movement in each day?

After a day of sitting at my computer, I’m more tired than when I started my day. You would think sitting all day wouldn’t be so tiring, but it is.

And more times than I care to admit, I end up sitting in front of the television at night. I mean, season two of Westworld is on! As well as The Handmaid’s Tale, and sure, you’re right, those should only take up a couple of hours, two nights a week right?

But the other night I saw a great older movie show up in the queue that I just had to see again. Have you seen Seabisquit? Such a great movie.

I’m finding all of this sitting is taking a toll on me. My back hurts and I am low energy. I’m not sleeping well either.  Continue reading

Hey, where is the Over 50 crowd?

I turned 50 in Napa just a month after moving there from Oregon. Fifty didn’t scare me, just the opposite really.

I was excited.

It was Mother’s Day, 2009 and in an interesting way, I felt like I’d “arrived”. I know most people feel that way at 30, but it took me a bit longer. There is something empowering about being a 50 something year old, and now I’m counting down to 60. Continue reading

Napa Life

The day we arrived in Napa and started unpacking our U-Haul, I tripped over a big rock and hurt my leg pretty badly. I was a bloody mess.

Judd grabbed a lounge chair from the deck, and set it up so I had a place to prop my leg up and get some ice on it. It hurt a lot. But what was almost worse was, I was carrying my little Bella when it happened and she flew out of my arms and landed a few feet away. Continue reading

Weekend – Spoil

We have our granddaughters for the weekend. We get to spoil have them because their mom and dad are busy, so we are on duty.

And on our way to pick them up, we decided to stop in Studio City and visit the Dr. Martens store. I need a new pair of riding boats, and Doc Martens are the best.

John’s riding boots are about ten years old and he still loves them, and wanted to get me a pair too. How could I say no? Continue reading

When you don’t have a Plan B

I was going to start this post by saying, I couldn’t believe I was standing in a multi-million dollar home about to endure my third interview, but that’s not entirely true.

I could believe it.

From the moment I first saw the ad for the position on Craigslist, I knew this was going to be my job. I just needed to convince the impeccably dressed, statuesque woman shaking my hand, of that. Continue reading

Wedding, wine and (hopefully) work

The day after our wedding, we packed up the car and drove south to wine country.

Being frugal (read: poor) we decided to camp in Napa Valley before my interview the following day.

As a wine lover, I was elated to see so many familiar names as we drove up Highway 29 towards St. Helena. We drove past Chandon, Cakebread, Turnbull, Beaulieu, Beringer, and so many more. I felt like a kid in a candy store. Continue reading

Let’s do this together video – Dairy woes

I decided to introduce dairy back into my diet after two weeks of being on the AIP diet.

It did not go well…

 

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Out of the frying pan…

I moved to Bend, Oregon in 1978 and never dreamed that I’d end up staying for over 30 years. I was just 19 when I first arrived in that little town, and so much had changed over the years.

Especially me.

But by 2009, I couldn’t wait to leave. My kids were grown and off to start their own lives, my friendships had changed so much I could barely recognize them, and my business was no longer paying the bills.

It was time to move on.

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Weekend – Beach life

I grew up on the beaches of Lake Michigan and I have been a beach lover ever since. It took me a few years, as in 30 plus, to move back to a beach town.

And I love it.

I grew up on a beach and it's in my soul

My beach town

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My John

The first time I went to Ireland and met John’s family I was a bit overwhelmed with their accents, especially those in the North. And it’s not just the way they pronounce words; it’s their colloquialisms.

For instance, when they introduced Sharon to me, she was called “Our Sharon”. And believe me it didn’t sound like our Sharon. It was more like “R Shrn”. So to me, she is still R Shrn.

After that I started calling John, My John.

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How to plan for an event

Planning an event can be overwhelming for so many people. But with just a little organization, it can be fun and very rewarding too.

I’ve had a few people ask me how I prepare for an event, so I thought I’d share some of my secrets here.

It’s all about the “Book”.

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Let’s do this together video – happy guts

My body and guts are so much happier!

I’m doing so much better and feel great. My skin is clearer and my belly is shrinking. I am enjoying all of the foods on the diet and don’t feel deprived, although I am looking forward to adding foods back in.

So far so good on this plan. It will be very interesting to see which foods bother me. 

This weekend is John’s birthday, and I’m not eating cake! But, I will introduce dairy back into my diet and see how my body response.

Thanks for all of your support and great comments. It helps to hear what you’ve experienced and what you’ve done too.

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