Introspective Adventurer

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Girl power – standing up for what is right

John and I went to see Captain Marvel on Sunday, and wow was it good! It is so gratifying to see movies with strong female protagonists.

So the next morning when I needed to go to a legal proceeding, I decided to harness a little Captain Marvel power of my own. The hearing was the kind where the client is not invited to participate or even be in the room. No, my assigned role was to sit in the lobby and wait until my attorney came out to give me the low-down.

But I decided I didn’t like that option.

This wasn’t my first time at one of these hearings, and each time I have been asked to stay outside. So I decided to dress like an attorney and grabbed my big black binder with all of the medical and legal documents from the case and headed for the courtroom.

My “attorney pose”

I was determined to hear what was going on for myself, but when I arrived I got nervous and sat down outside the courtroom like I had the previous times.

My heart was racing and my throat dry from nerves, and I wasn’t sure I would be able to get up the gumption to walk into that room. But after deciding it was now or never I took a deep breath and walked in right behind two attorneys.

In the center of the small room was a long table lined with chairs. There were a handful of chairs along the outside walls and I quickly walked to one, sat down, opened my binder and pretended to read from it.

At the far end of the room perched on a platform, was a desk piled high with papers and a judge sitting behind several computer screens. Writing notes in my binder, I tried to avoid eye contact with him.

After about five minutes my attorney came through the door and man was he surprised to see me. He came over to me and the first words out of my mouth were, “I’m staying.”

He nodded with a look that conveyed he knew arguing with me was pointless and sat down next to the defense attorney.

As the two attorneys argued the case, I began to find my voice. There were several occasions when one attorney would ask the other a question about the case and not know the answer. Each time I opened up my black binder, quickly found the right document and answered the question myself.

This went on for about 30 minutes, and then they finally spoke before the judge. All was agreed upon and this hearing was over. There will be more, and you can bet I will be there.

What I realized was neither of the attorneys nor the judge had any personal stake in the outcome of the proceedings. I was the only one in that room who did, and it was up to me to speak up.

I’m glad I went and that I found the courage to do what I knew was my right.

I may not have saved the world, but I am proud that at the very least I stood up for what was just. I think Captain Marvel would have approved.

Captain Marvel

24 Comments

  1. Way to go girl! I’m so proud of you for taking a stand!

    • Loretta Sayers
      Loretta Sayers

      2019-03-12 at 08:20

      I left the house ready to take a stand, but when I got there I almost chickened out! lol….it’s interesting how easy we can be intimidated by “authority” figures. Thanks Cindy! Xx

      • But you didn’t, Loretta!! You did it scared. Way to go! <3 Thanks for sharing this. I feel stronger from just reading it.

        • Loretta Sayers
          Loretta Sayers

          2019-03-12 at 15:11

          Awww…thank you for that. I guess that’s it, isn’t it? We just have to do it even if we are afraid. Xx

  2. I’m so happy you followed your gut and stayed in the hearing!! Well done, you!! 🙌🙌🙌🙌❤️

  3. Yeah for you! Fighting back your nerves and speaking up for yourself or those you love. High Five

  4. Oh my goodness, Loretta! Wow! Way to take it into your own hands! So did you speak into the process then? I can’t even imagine how its legal that you aren’t allowed in there!

    • Loretta Sayers
      Loretta Sayers

      2019-03-12 at 15:10

      Thank you, Amy. I think because the room is so tiny they don’t want clients in there. But I was determined to find out for myself what was going on!!

  5. Absolutely brilliant! Well done.

    • Loretta Sayers
      Loretta Sayers

      2019-03-12 at 15:10

      Mandy, thank you! I’ll admit, I was feeling pretty scared at first. lol

  6. You showed up, emotionally and physically! PS Goose the cat was awesome too in the film 😉

  7. Woah! That is incredible. I honestly don’t know if I could have done that. You’re so brave and strong. Well done.

    • Loretta Sayers
      Loretta Sayers

      2019-03-12 at 15:13

      You would, Wendy, if it was for your child. Us Mom’s muster more courage for them then we do for just about anyone else.

  8. I’m with you Loretta. Hell if I’m waiting outside to let them decide my fate. Way to take charge.

    • Loretta Sayers
      Loretta Sayers

      2019-03-13 at 07:51

      Our legal system is broke and the only ones who benefit in the end are lawyers.

  9. Working with lawyers, I can totally agree with you that the only person in the room with something at stake is you. Unless the proceedings are totally closed to the public for someone else’s protection, you have every right to go in there.

    Proud of you and for you. Taking a stand can be hard but it can also be rewarding.

    Can’t wait to see this movie! Girl power!!

    • Loretta Sayers
      Loretta Sayers

      2019-03-13 at 14:28

      Thank you, Kim!! I was nervous, but also knew I needed to take a stand.

      You will love the movie! Xx

  10. Gina M Tabachki

    2019-03-15 at 13:11

    You go girl (woman!)! Just saying, where I practice law it would be wrong to exclude a client from attending her court proceeedings. It’s your case; your attorney is your guide through the legal system but doesn’t remove your inherent authority.

    • Loretta Sayers
      Loretta Sayers

      2019-03-15 at 13:33

      Thank you so much for that!! I feel bullied by the entire process.

      • Gina M Tabachki

        2019-03-15 at 13:38

        If you have the energy, interest or inclination, ask your attorney by which legal or ethical authority he excludes you. Lawyers make strategic decisions because that is our area of education, expertise and licensing. Clients make decisions about lawful goals, outcomes etc. Ya can’t make those decisions if you ain’t in the arena. Power on sister; you’ll regain your God given authority! IMHO

        • Loretta Sayers
          Loretta Sayers

          2019-03-15 at 13:45

          Thank you Gina. What is interesting is nobody asked me why I was there or said I had to leave!

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