Moving to Oregon in the late ‘70’s turned out to be a lot of fun for me.
Disco was still popular and I would spend most nights dancing my heart out at the discotheque. There seemed to always be something going on in the city, which made it easy to find friends. And I had a great job working for a real estate developer.
Life was good.
Within months I met a woman named Judy, who was older than me and had two young boys. She sort of took me under her wing, and I instantly had a little family to have dinners and hang out with. It was nice for me to have Judy and her boys and I was happy I found her.
I lived in Bend for about a year and a half when I met someone else that would change my life.
One Friday in July, I was getting ready to go out with a new friend, my hairdresser. I enjoyed talking with her during my few visits and when she asked me out, I said sure.
Later that day, as I was home getting ready, another friend of mine dropped by. I was happy to see Ron, and surprised he brought a friend. He introduced me to Joe and three of us chatted for a bit.
Not thinking much about it, I invited them to join us girls and was looking forward to a fun night out. We all met for dinner, but my new girlfriend was visibly unhappy that I had invited guys.
I was having a great time, but it was awkward because of her clear distain for the boys. I thought things would get better when we decided to go to a club after dinner, but they got worse. She was sure I was trying to set her up on a date, and not happy with me about it.
It didn’t take long before she decided to leave. And as she was leaving, Ron decided to catch a ride from her, leaving Joe and I alone at the club.
We started talking and I learned that Joe was a mental health counselor and enjoyed his job. He loved the outdoors, had backpacked through Europe with his guitar, and came from a big family.
He was very interesting and I found myself laughing at his sense of humor. It also didn’t hurt that he was handsome.
We ended up talking for hours that night. Joe owned a little house in town and we sat outside in his back yard looking at the stars and talking about our lives.
I was surprised when he called the next day and asked if I wanted to go for a drive. And laughed when he said he wanted to take my convertible Triumph Spitfire.
I didn’t know it at the time, but that was the beginning of a lifetime relationship. I wonder if I would have done anything different had I known how it would all unfold?