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Let’s do this together video – Authenticity

Authenticity is the new buzz word, and I believe a new online movement as well.

Last week, a woman I follow on social media posted a story and video of herself that completely changed my view of her. She is beautiful, stylish, upbeat and lives in a beach town. My view of her was, “how lucky”. I only saw one side of her, that is until after her video. 

She shared that she had a near death experience because of Late Stage Lyme Disease. She spent most of a year bedridden with seizures. And when she said she had a lifetime of abuse and trauma, I was overwhelmed with sorry for her. To share such a deeply personal part of her life with us, was so powerful.

And it changed the way I saw her. Prior to that video, I assumed she was “above me” and I would have nothing to offer her. After the video, I knew I needed to meet her. I immediately sent her a message and we plan on meeting soon.

Please join me in sharing your authentic self. No judgement here. Just a place to allow others to see us and experience each other, despite this make-believe online world!

This is a first take video. No makeup, no editing. I even pushed the stop button too soon, but this is me!

Do you judge a book by its cover? Have you seen someone online, and made a decision of who they are without really knowing them? I have.

How about me? Do you have a judgement of who I am? Do you feel like you know me yet?

13 Comments

  1. I really love and appreciate what your going for here. Authenticity is such an under-rated topic and it’s easy to feel alone when your trying to portray yourself as authentic as possible. Seeing posts and videos like this are a great reminder that we are never alone. Thank you for sharing!

  2. I loved it! I like what you’re trying to do and I have nothing to judge about you except that I admire your creativity and courage to not only talk about authenticity but to try and be authentic yourself..
    We do judge people based on what they put in their online profile, and I admit many times I feel like I wasn’t good enough or pretty enough because I saw thousands of nice pictures people put in their social media..but, there are people who remind me that those people are also a normal human being with their own problems and flaws..so thank you 🙂

    • Loretta Sayers
      Loretta Sayers

      2017-11-15 at 17:41

      It is not always easy, but worth it to be our authentic selves. No matter what that is. Thank you for your lovely comment!

  3. Being our authentic selves is always a good thing. Unfortunately, that word has become so trendy (used by marketers to try and reach the “authentic-loving millennials”) that the meaning in and of itself has become inauthentic. 😐

    But I will say that you always seem pretty authentic to me, and I applaud you for doing a video without makeup on! (I can’t say I’d have the guts to do that.) So big points on the authenticity scale for you!

    Speaking of makeup, here’s a funny story. My friend’s mother has severe dementia, and lately, her mom has been obsessing about her lipstick—usually related to where it is at any given moment, as she did recently in the middle of dinner. It drove my friend crazy (I took care of my father for a year, so I get the crazy-making part of caregiving a parent with dementia.)

    Apparently the day before, her mother held up her lipstick while driving in the car and announced that “lipstick is better than religion!” (I’m sure Revlon would love that bit of revelation.)

    It’s funny, but it’s not. I mean, the poor lady doesn’t know her “arse from her elbow” at this point, but man, she is going to look good no matter what!

    Hopefully, that’s not me at 96-years of age (I’d be quite happy to leave this earth before then ), but I suppose if I want to ensure that I don’t end up like that, I’ll have to make a video without my lipstick on. You know, just to be sure that this need to look good all the time isn’t lurking around in my subconscious. 😁

    • Loretta Sayers
      Loretta Sayers

      2017-11-16 at 08:32

      That is a funny story. I friend of mine is a permanent makeup artist. She has had several ladies well into their 80’s come in for permanent makeup. They say they don’t want to leave it up to someone else to get their makeup right for the funeral!

      I think being authentic is just being ourselves. If you love makeup and it’s your everyday thing, then wearing makeup is being authentic!

  4. I love the authenticity in you Ms.Loretta 😊. Most of us are easy to judge others by the way they look, the way they talk, and the way they present themselves. I was always judged as a stuck-up because of the way I present myself and the way I talk. And I was also thesame, I judged people the way they present themselves. I love this way, I think if we stop judging peole before we know them, we could make a huge difference.

    • Loretta Sayers
      Loretta Sayers

      2017-11-16 at 08:34

      Thank you Crisly. Maybe it’s in our DNA to judge? But it sure can cause heartache too.

  5. All this time we’ve been Insta buds and I’ve never been to your blog (seems wrong lol) I also wrote about being authentic, the truth is we are we aren’t authentic, we are always us! This really changes every ten years in my opinion. I believe though, when women hit forty we truly grow into our skin.

    • Loretta Sayers
      Loretta Sayers

      2017-11-16 at 16:22

      I agree with you about hitting 40. 50 was even better!

      Oh man, you’ve missed a lot of posts here! 😉

  6. Love this! Especially online, I think we all create and observe a very edited version of ourselves. Honestly, it’s so boring! We were created to have triumphs and failures, and to be resilient. Someone else is feeling alone when we aren’t who we actually are. Thanks for starting your movement, I think you’ll get a lot of support for it.

  7. I saw her video too. I was shocked. I never would have guessed she had been through so much. I feel like you are very transparent. I feel like I know you like a good friend, but I may not. I try to show my best, authentic self.

    • Loretta Sayers
      Loretta Sayers

      2017-11-18 at 12:30

      Wasn’t it so amazing (her post)? I was speechless! Thank you Trudy…I try to be transparent and it is important to me. I haven’t always been. You too are very authentic and it shows in your posts.

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