Loretta's Countdown to 60

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Looking back – a great way to see just how far I’ve come

I was looking back at old posts I’ve written and came across this one. It made me cry!

Wow, have I come a long way. I don’t feel anything like this now and I’m so happy that I “kicked out the old tenant”.

I wrote this in August of 2017. Since then I’ve lost 20 pounds but more importantly, learned so much about myself. This blog is exactly what I needed. (Thank you for supporting me with it, John).

Me and John Oct. 2018
(photo: goirishphotog)

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Let’s do this together video – No diet no dye

I meant to get on today and talk about the Mediterranean Diet and how important it is to heart health.

Only the lady staring back at me in the camera was way too distracting!

Remember when I said I was fine dying my hair, thank you very much, and I didn’t have beautiful silver hair? Well, I’ve decided to embrace my gray, even if it is not silver.

Today, my hairdresser put in highlights where my gray is to help me transition to my natural color. And…she cut off at least 6″ of length too. Continue reading

Let’s do this together – on the road

On the road again!

My husband, John ran the LA Marathon on Sunday and we decided to stay in the area together for his work week. I’ve tagged along to Big Bear and we are now in Long Beach, staying onboard The Queen Mary.

Have you ever stayed on the Queen Mary?

View from our window on The Queen Mary

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Let’s do this together video – Effort

Yesterday I posted that I am making some different food choices so I can still eat Italian food, but lose some unwanted fat also. I mentioned that I am trading zoodles for noodles and broccoli for bread.

I got a lot of good comments but my favorite came from Heike Yates of Pursue Your Spark. She said, eat whatever you want and exercise more.

As if it were that easy! Oh wait, it is that easy.

It’s all about effort. How much effort do you want to put into restricting your diet vs how much effort you put into exercise. I love to eat, so I better keep working out!

Thank you Heike, for the reminder.

Heike is a triathlete/IronMan competitor and practices what she preaches. Check out her FaceBook page, I think you’ll want to follow along!

Heike Yates – Pursue Your Spark

Let’s do this together video – Your Future Self

Have you ever heard of channeling your future self to help you with your goals? I hadn’t before this last week.

My goal this year is to get rid of my excess fat and be in great physical health. And I’d like to do this before we go on vacation at the end of April. That’s plenty of time to reach this goal!

But this month was a bit of a struggle.

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This or That? How do you prioritize and put yourself first?

Earlier this week I wrote about making the choice between having things or having experiences. It is easy for me to make those decisions, because I lean towards experiences now.

But not every decision is that easy for me. I am in an almost constant battle with myself about whether I should do this or that. I’m not sure why that is, but it gets so bad at times it stifles any decision, and I end up wasting time doing nothing.

Does that ever happen to you?

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Weekend – Wanderers!

The Santa Ana winds are kicking up, bringing us warm weather…so you know what that means?

We are off to explore the countryside, via motorcycle. 

The great thing about this bike is, we can bring our overnight bags and let the road take us where it will.

I hope your weekend takes you to amazing places!

Are you on my team?

My assignment this week for the Transform program is to gather my team.

Each week the program starts with a Life Lesson video to watch and consider. This week it is “Rally your Team”. The guidelines for this are to gather the people I feel safe declaring my goals and commitments.

Also the people who will hold me accountable, and who I can lean on to confess and unload my emotional baggage. That last one made me laugh. I have been doing that here for the last eight months!

Lastly, I am supposed to gather people on my team that notice me, care about me and will genuinely support my transformation. I’m supposed to make a list of these people.

Are you on that list?

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Finding courage

My oldest son graduated from high school in 2002. Which was the same year I got my real estate license, and the same year things started to change for me.

Recovering from divorce takes time, and money. I had spent the time healing from it, taking care not to drink or do anything destructive. That is except date a guy who was destructive.

How I missed the signs of emotional abuse from the beginning is beyond me.

He was an angry controlling man who lashed out at me and his daughter. What a complete mess I was in. I wrote before that it would take three events for me to finally break free of him. Continue reading

Let’s do this together – week two

I’ve been on the Fast Metabolism Diet for 10 days:

It will be interesting to see how the next few days/week play out. Diet wise, phase one, two and three are completely different. I thought phase three would incorporate the foods from the other two phases, but that’s not completely true.

Also, I am paying way too much attention to the diet and which foods I can eat when. That just puts my focus on food for the entire day. I don’t like that part.

Loved my workouts for the week! Super happy with getting back on track with regular workouts. Sticking with the Nia classes, riding my bike and doing some strength training. Had my first session with a personal trainer yesterday. She’s 60 and fit and strong. It was great to get some pointers from her. She also teaches a sculpt and stretch class that I will be incorporating into my workouts.

So, not sure about the FMD, but at least I did kick start my workouts again, and that’s a good thing.

Best of all, my motorcycle jacket fits better!

 

Weekend Home

Some weekends are about catching up. Catching up on sleep, catching up on a good book or binge watching Game of Thrones, or… catching up on chores.

Today we are catching up on chores, because we like our Sundays to be  Fundays.

 

helping me with my bike

I hate that I don’t know how to change my bike tires when they need it…but I  love having someone around who does.

Saturday's chores

I can’t believe at 58 I have to use a laundromat! Oh well, the joys of living in Santa Barbara.

Enjoy your Saturday!

 

Eclipsed by regret

I’ve been accused of having FOMO more than once. You know, Fear of Missing Out? Apparently it’s become such a big deal that it needs its own acronym. I used to take offense to it, thinking I was somehow a bad person because I had it.

I don’t really care anymore. I would rather be accused of having FOMO than regret. Which is where I am today, feeling regret.

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Do this, try that, this works better, don’t do that!

Low fat, high fat,

Low carbs, balanced carbs,

Do jumping jacks daily, don’t do high impact,

Never eat bananas again, just eat fruit, fruit is bad,

Bread is bad, grains are bad, eat whole grains,

Don’t eat legumes, just eat beans and rice,

You must do 60 minutes of cardo daily, just do 30 mins of cardo 3x per week,

Don’t eat meat, eat lots of meat,

Eat fish, don’t eat farmed fish,

The only way to lose fat is to exercise, there’s no need to exercise to lose weight,

No coffee, coffee is good for you,

No butter, put butter in your coffee,

Dairy is out, dairy is okay,

Eat everything, don’t eat anything,

No added sugar!

 

Okay, got that? Yeah, me too.

 

Trying to figure out what the best diet and exercise routine is best for you?

A look inside

I’m off today.

I don’t mean off from work, I mean off emotionally.

We had a busy weekend working on a home we own that’s about six hours away from us. Each time we have been between tenants, we would head to the house to clean and paint and kept it looking good. We had renters in it for the past couple of years, and since they are out, it was time to go get it ready to sell.

We arrived on Friday night and were immediately disappointed by the state of the house. We’ve had renters in it before that have left it dirty and in disrepair, but this time was different.

The house was, for lack of a better word, worn. It was like stepping inside a once beautiful masterpiece, that was now faded and torn and lacking any luster of it’s glory years. It was sad to see it like that, and it got us down.

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Weekend Adventure – 2 Adults, 0 kids, 1 bike

Hope you have a great Saturday!

Weekend Woes…

I hate filing tax returns!! So much so, that I put it off…for like years.

When I was younger I thought it was a right of passage, now it’s just a pain. Don’t get me wrong, I’m okay with paying taxes, just not figuring out the paperwork.

How about you? What do you drag your feet about?

Italian Love

We need to talk… and, you might want to sit down for this.

I didn’t mean for this to happen, but last night I cheated. I know, I’m sorry! I couldn’t help myself. I had every intention of staying loyal, but this Italian overtook my good senses.

From the second I walked into the place, I could feel my resolve fading away. All of my senses came alive as the aroma of sweet, sensual garlic filled the air. I told myself to stay strong, but the offering of warm fresh bread and a bowl of garlic soaked olive oil were dangled in front of me like Anteros, the Italian God of love and passion, and I was sucked in. Continue reading

Cheating

Is it okay to cheat? Do you do it?

When I started telling people I am trying to lose weight and get back in shape, I got a lot of opinions and ideas on how to do it. I’m learning that there are as many ways of accomplishing that goal, as people who found what works for them.

Cut out sugar, don’t eat fat, avoid carbs, don’t eat fruit, just eat fruit, test your pH level, eat fat, eat whatever you want but in moderation, never eat grains, eat only plant base foods, just eat protein… and on and on.

One of the suggestions I have heard from several people, including my husband, is to have a “cheat day” each week. You know, a day to indulge and eat whatever you want. I know for a lot of people that works well.

For me it’s a slippery slope to allowing it to happen two, three, or six more days of the week, and I’m not sure why. Maybe once that door is opened, I feel like I’ve broken the “rules” and so fuck it, I might as well eat whatever I want.

Once that happens, another little voice starts whispering in my ear. She says, “You should love your body just the way it is. The average size woman in the US is 14. Embrace your curves. There’s nothing wrong with being a little overweight. Some women my height would love to be 175 pounds. Be happy!”

It is easy for me to listen to her, because I’ve gotten validation about all those things. I see it everywhere. And while those sentiments are good and affirming, they can also give me permission to cheat. Give me permission to go back to overeating, over indulging, and taking my scooter instead of my bike to the store.

How about you? What works for you? Do you give yourself a cheat day? How do you keep it to just one day?

Vulnerable Rebel?

How I see myself, and what’s reality can be quite different most times. Take riding my scooter, for instance. I can see myself on my pretty blue Vespa, sundress and sandals on with a baguette poking out from under a basket on the back.

But I’m a bit of a rule follower. I like to think of myself as a rule following rebel. I have a tattoo, but not too many people will see it. I have a Vespa, but I wear protective gear. Every time.

I thought about writing a post about giving oneself permission to be safe instead of cool. Or maybe saying safe is cool. So, yesterday I asked John to take some photos of me with my scooter showing my top of the line, super safe helmet, my full armored jacket, boots and jeans on, and gloves near by.

It was fun and we got a couple of good shots. I was able to find one I thought was cool and I posted it.

When I look at that picture, I feel good about myself. I look a little bit like a rebel too.

In reality, I was feeling fat and hyper sensitive about many of my features. My face looks funny, I’m squinting, my belly looks fat, my jeans are showing my fat….blah, blah, blah.

So today I feel a little guilty about posting that photo. It was the old me saying, “look how cool I am!” which translates to “please like me”. I didn’t do what I set out to do as much as go right back to that old mantra.

What I want to do is learn how to be happy with me, by exposing my insecurities to anyone who cares to listen (are you listening, Loretta??). And maybe help anyone else who feels like I do.

So I’ll keep working on it.

Weekend Off…

… to go check out my new saddle for my bike. I’ve been riding this bike for a couple of years now, and it kills my butt every time! I finally did some research and found out manufacturers are making saddles that are actually designed for women!

 

What are you off to do?

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